10 comments on “Ensnared in the Web

  1. Wouldn’t you think that You Tube would have the decency and maybe the interest to avoid civil suits by taking her videos down? If it’s true that this is how these two youngsters connected, You Tube might be liable. Especially in a society so litigious that a person can sue for getting burned on their own coffee.

    None of that takes away from the pain that must be felt by all those whose life was touched by this young lady. She seemed very energetic, exciting, and full of vigor. It’s a shame she was taken away so early in life.

    • Ellena, it’s possible that the videos remain at the family’s request. If they don’t have many other videotaped memories, maybe they wanted to keep these posted. It’s sad that her site has become a haven of sorts for racists, trolls, and heartless bastards saying vile things about her. But, again, its possible the family is keeping the videos up in rememberance.

  2. Such a sad story. Hopefully issues like mental illness and cyberspace safety can become just as prevalent of issues as gun control. Talk about misplaced priorities.

  3. I find it fascinating that while stories of interactions such as this, or even of those people who “hook-up” over the internet, are so foreign to just about anybody my age or older, they are actually relatively common place amongst younger peoples. Just about every person under the age of 20 has, in some aspect, much of their “life” posted online, open for observation by….anybody. I understand that this is a product of an increase in the access to technology (Christ, my 4 year olds know more about navigating the internet than my fiance’), but it’s an excellent example that technology is far from perfect & said access to technology can oftentimes have negative, unintended ramifications.

    -n

  4. I am so sad for Asia and her family. A promising life lost so early. The post is a good reminder of the dangers of over-exposure on the internet. But how to get more youths to realise this danger? I just feel so sad.

  5. Truly sad. I often try to warn others when I hear them speak of “online dating” and speak out against the dangers, but, it seems as though my voice is not even heard. In the Philadelphia area, there is a TV ad that warns folks about “posting their lives” on the internet. It’s basically about one’s photos, but, it carries over to other areas, as well. It is my hope that they will continue to run the ad. Even if it wakes up just one, it will be worth the time and effort. Peace.

  6. @ Ellena/Geekgirl: It’s hard to say what’s going on with her site. I haven’t read anything to suggest the family still knows her You Tube page is still active. Though I have noticed that somebody’s been logging in. I hope that person at least has the decency to remove some of those vicious and hateful comments trolls are leaving. It’s a shame that an innocent young woman’s murder has lured so much vitriol.

    @ Saved: I completely agree that mental illness is a serious complication that continually gets overlooked. In many parts of the black community for instance, it’s one of those things (in addition to discussions of AIDS, sex, homosexuality, etc.) that continues to get swept under the rug. Staying mute about these topics could be – and usually is – full of detriment.

    @ Nic: “…but it’s an excellent example that technology is far from perfect & said access to technology can oftentimes have negative, unintended ramifications.

    Well put. The advances that were supposed to make significant advancements (and they actually have to a large extent) have also created many problems that were once unheard of.

    @ LGS: “But how to get more youths to realise this danger?

    That’s the million dollar question. As much as I’d like to use the lack of parental Internet monitoring as the red-herring, I can’t. There are too many ways for information to be transmitted for parents to cover all bases. At school, in dorms, at libraries, through smart phones, on and on and on. I suppose that taking a page from your playbook – using tragedies like this as learning tool – would be the best approach.

    @ Freedom: Ads like that should be aired all over the country. Certainly the online community is not the only threat to people, but it certainly doesn’t pacify the threat. If anything, the online world makes offline assaults easier to accomplish. These dangers should be exposed.

  7. I am deeply saddened by the brutal killing of this lovely young woman. Women, please protect yourselves. Cybernetically-motivated violence against women is a real thing. My cousin had to get a job transfer recently because of threats and harassment she was receiving from somebody she met online. The threat is real! Be smart with what you post out there for the world to see.

  8. Hey Dre,
    Why do we have to be “gun nuts”? I don’t call you an anti-racism “nut”. BTW, guns aren’t the only way you can kill a lot of children http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bath_School_disaster O.K., I’ve fulfilled my obligation as an NRA member, so on to your real point. There are 57.7 million people in the U.S. with a mental illness, 5.7 million that are bi-polar and 2.4 million that have schizophrenia. On average 1 in 17 people have a “serious” mental illness according to National Institute of Mental Health. Does it still sound like a good idea to go touring around the web meeting strangers??? People ask me all the time why I use a pseudonym and try to hide my identity, I always reply, “Don’t you know how many seriously mentally ill people there are on line?” A message to women- if you date on line, or even flirt on line, you are taking a seious chance of meeting one of these very dangerous people…up close. I know next to nothing about the Internet and I could track your IP address to your home. This is not “safe and anonymous.” Good post Dre.

  9. This is but a reflection of the reality that we are living in much different times. I read that these students actually knew each other (making this encounter likely even without the Internet). But that doesn’t dismiss the real dangerous of the Internet. As I mentioned in a previous post about this, my husband and I do everything possible to keep our childrens’ activity closely monitored by having a single computer in the household. And THAT is located in the family room. But parents can only do so much to protect their children, sadly enough.

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